editor's commentary

Recently, the most popular topic on the microblogging is not "Wang Quanan was arrested for visiting prostitutes, netizens on behalf of his wife, Zhang Yuqi, hold injustice". The vast number of netizens on the Wang Quanan prostitution incident is incredible, the overwhelming collective thinking that the family has a beautiful wife, should not go to prostitution! We do not judge right and wrong from the level of morality and legal system, but from the psychology to talk about why men will go to prostitutes?

 

1Objectives

Most new johns want a lot more than just sex. If there is too little else in the whoring process, they will regret it and find it uninteresting.

However, the sex industry in China is growing so rapidly that more and more johns are being trained. On the one hand, many people increasingly understand the limitations of the sex industry, so they are turning to second wives. This is especially true in Delta, where even beef sellers and four-wheeler drivers are involved. On the other hand, many johns are becoming more and more aware of the rules of the sex industry and the nature of the work of a lady, so they are increasingly following the rules and seeking only pure sexual pleasure, and no longer doing anything other than what they want to do.

2Standards

Most johns don't really have a defined and fixed aesthetic, nor are they just looking for more and more. When a john chooses a lady, it is actually mainly a random human interaction.

As far as the lady's looks and figure are concerned, inSI've noticed it time and time again in the district: the ladies I think are nice, the other ladies and mamas don't think are pretty at all, and the ladies they all praise don't have significantly more customers. In particular, all the ladies I know, fat or thin, beautiful or ugly, have very few confirmed regulars (regulars).

In addition, in an "entertainment world" in a county in Hebei, I once heard a john say: "I'm looking for a pretty one, it's worth the extra money to look at her." Another john said, "I specialize in finding the less beautiful ones. They can serve." But in fact, I witnessed the two of them recruiting young ladies to sit on the stage, but I could not see how the two young ladies could meet the aesthetic standards that they themselves said. The two girls were like two grains of sand on the beach, there was really no difference between them.

The change of the johns' aesthetic standard also depends on how the lady pulls them in. Readers can see in the case of Miss Peony that the more she tries to sell herself, the less the client sees her, probably because of the "advertising backlash effect". Some ladies are not only of high quality, but also very good at what they do. If they let their clients chase them a few times, they will be willing to pay a high price.

Of course, the world of men will always produce some "one size fits all" female idols. The closer a young lady gets to such an icon, the higher her price will naturally rise. For example, Miss Mae is relentless in her attempts to lose her non-existent fat so that she can be "sold".

But the men know that there are not many women who are close to their idols. The johns know even better that looking for a pretty girl in a bottom-dwelling lady is purely a matter of chance. So go toSThe johns in the district not only know more about "relativity" when choosing a girl, but also seem to be all about the feeling of the moment when they lay eyes on her.

3Fashion

That is to say, the various levels of sexual services provided by young ladies in any place have a relatively fixed proportion of customers, and there is no obvious increase or decrease. It is just that the development of the sex industry in different places is not balanced and develops at different speeds, thus resulting in the apparent "whoring fashion".

I have heard several times from well-meaning friends that a certain way of doing things is now popular in the sex industry, or that the ladies in a certain place are happy to provide a certain special kind of sex service, and so the place is full of customers from all directions. Some anonymous Taiwanese johns have also set up a website on the Internet, specializing in commenting on the characteristics and advantages and disadvantages of sex service girls in different parts of the Mainland, as well as the degree of prosperity of the business in that place, which is said to be very serious.

I don't have enough evidence to refute them, I just like to reason. If it does happen, then:

First of all, among all the johns, there must be a well-connected, unobstructed, and constantly functioning information transmission system; only then can they know the differences between the ladies in different places.

Secondly, the prices of girls in various places must be comparable, not fluctuating due to the leniency of the "anti-vice" campaign, nor due to the overall level of local prices and unevenness; only then will the clients be able to make a comparison of the "performance-price ratio".

Thirdly, johns must have the privilege of free travel on all modes of transportation in order to disregard the cost of going to the place to catch the fashion.

Fourthly, the special services of the ladies in those special places must be so special that the ladies in other places simply cannot imitate and learn from them, in order to maintain their status as "no other stores".

But is all this realistic in today's China?

As far as I can see, inSIn the "Golden Triangle" district of Beijing, the grass-roots girls are only renting out one of their organs; in the opulent hotels of the "Golden Triangle", the "high-class" girls are singing and dancing to sell their moods and sex; they all exist as they always have, and there is a steady stream of clients. If it is not a blind spot, how can we talk about "whoring fashion"?

4Preferences

Most johns don't go to prostitutes out of lust or hunger either. As far as I know, among the johns nowadays.30-40Married men at the age of 18 make up a sizable percentage of the population. What many wives don't understand most is the same problem: why must they spend money and take chances on prostitutes when there is a woman at home and they have never refused them? Therefore, in the folk opinion, has been relatively tolerant of bachelors whoring and away from home when whoring, but at least look down on those who keep their wives still whoring men.

As far as I know, those men who obviously have other opportunities for sexual intercourse but still patronize prostitutes are likely to feel that, in terms of gender aesthetics, sexual preference, and the psychological stimulation of sex, the sex objects he has are not satisfying him. For example, the way some of the ladies are solicited. I am afraid that many men find that really disgusting. However, there have always been johns who ate this set, so the lady who solicited that way has never lost her job.

What is most telling is the existence and development of "jerking off" as a form of sexual service.

In Beijing, due to the strict ban on prostitution, the sexual services offered in many saunas are limited to "jerking off", or at least that's the way it is when the wind is blowing. Therefore, we have every reason to believe that most of the customers want to have sex but cannot. However, in the case of Xiao Li, a masseuse (and other young ladies) later in this book, the reader can see that: inBIn such a "whorish" place as a town, the masseuses who only provide "masturbation" still have customers and even regular customers, which is still enough to maintain the prosperity of the massage industry. If it is only because the customers have to comply with the sauna places do not allow "snogging" rules, then there should be no repeat customers.

It's a case of "to each his own".

5"Bizarre" motives.

Although most men unconsciously tend to have sex "for the sake of sex," in many cases something unrelated to sex can be the motivation for prostitution.

For example, when preventing AIDS internationally, a lot of attention is paid to long-distance bus drivers because they are more likely to visit prostitutes; they are also likely to travel farther and faster once the virus is transmitted. I used to speculate that they were more likely to visit prostitutes because of the physiological stimulation they get from sitting and driving for long periods of time. Later, I happened to meet a fellow factory worker from my youth who had been driving long distances. When he heard what I had to say, he was not impressed. He explained: the old driver on the road the most headache, one is not good food, two is not sleeping well. Nerves highly nervous to drive a few hours, you can no longer sleep. This time there is a woman, the problem is solved.

I don't know how to drive, so I can't judge the generality of his statement. But his words reminded me that you can't "talk about sex". That's how I was able toSDistrict note: Once, a young man with a gauze wrapped around his head came to the john. The owner of the food store next door said: this man, who had just been in (SThe "top side" breaks his head in a fight with someone else, and all of a sudden he's here again.callMiss, you really don't want to die. My guess is that this person is probably looking for a lady because he has some unknown emotion to vent. (Of course, from a lady's point of view, I'm afraid this kind of john is even more dangerous.)

In addition to the reasons for whoring mentioned above, I reckon there are many other kinds of reasons. For example, some people feel that whoring is simple, straightforward, and not as troublesome as screwing a honey or a lover and getting into trouble. This is buying selfishness and simplicity. Others buy dominance to show or prove their "manhood" in prostitution. Then there is buying opportunity, buying service, buying pleasure, etc. But I won't go into all of that here. But I won't go into all that here, because people more or less already know about it.

6"Theoretical preparation"

Whether he is married or not, whether he has a sexual partner or not, a man who wants to be a john many times over must often also be prepared to be able to separate sex, love and marriage. This is not something he can do in his mind, but something he has to recognize and agree with. This is why I call this "theoretical preparation" for prostitution. By the way, some popular literature often depicts a man's whoring as being impulsive, accidental, or even being pulled down by a lady. I feel that it is only because such men do not yet dare to prostitute themselves with a straight face that they need such a reason, and only then will there be "pencils" (about men) to write about it.

The "theoretical preparation" for prostitution is in fact the same as the professionalization of sex service girls. If the john is always in front of the lady "weak" or "liver trembling"; if the john is always with the lady to engage in "imitation marriage" or "imitation love ", not to mention his own can not last long, even the lady is afraid that can not stand this hypocrisy. Therefore, a male cadre in a county in Hebei Province summarized: "You can think of a lady when you're doing it with your wife, but you can never think of your wife when you're looking for a lady."

However, this may sound like "child's play" to many older johns. Older johns are able to separate sex, love and marriage. For example98When I was conducting other surveys in the Pearl River Delta in 2007, a director of a prefecture-level city once said to me, "callMiss won't hurt her wife at all. I don't love her (Miss) and I won't marry her, so (my) wife has no reason to be (angry)."

The same applies to unmarried men. A young man in the Delta said, "A lady is not an object, so it's all right to play with her, it doesn't matter." He also said something else, which I suspect he learned from Hong Kong movies and television: "She (the object) won't let (me) move (her), so if I don't go to a lady, who will I go to? She (object) do not want (sex) Well, I can not go to rape her (object) Well. I can't rape her (the object). I have to find a lady."

 

No matter how we judge them morally, these "truths" are indeed the true thoughts of most johns. That is to say, as long as sex, love and marriage are regarded as separate and non-interfering matters, a man can easily and freely be "a good husband at home and a good caller when he goes out"; or even "a good husband at home and a good caller when he goes out".call(Miss), one for the second wife, and a beehive of honeys."

This, even Ping, who was a veteran mommy, was outraged. Once, three men who seemed to be locals came to whore together. After they entered the room, Sister Ping said to me, "See how nice it is to have men who cancallMiss, play girls as much as you want. There's a wife waiting at home."

In this regard, I do not talk about many academic theories, but only want to relay a man's "high opinion", even if it is only for criticism:

"This is the physical advantage of men. A man's marriage is in his head (which can be rationalized in the sense of facing marriage), love is in his chest (which can also mean the passion of love), but sex is in his lower body. The lower body is far away from the chest and head, so of course it can be used separately. Women can't. Women's heads are empty, their hearts are behind their breasts, and their children are in their bellies; so they mix everything together."

7Mid-life Crisis

The reason why some middle-aged men prostitute themselves, there is a deep fear of "old age". On the one hand, they try to prove that they are still alive through sex with young ladies; on the other hand, they would like to leave some memories of their dying years so that they will not lament in their twilight years that they have "lived a lifetime in vain". Some people even say: even if the result of sexually transmitted diseases, but also do not hesitate, otherwise, "in the future, even the ability to get sexually transmitted diseases are no longer".

Especially some middle-aged men, who have been following the rules in their sex life all their lives and do not know what sexual skills are; now they have watched the video orVCDBut my wife had already gotten used to it, and there was no way to "update" it. But the wife has long been accustomed to nature, no "renewal" of the possibility. So such a man may be more to the lady there to seek "old trees bloom new flowers". Once really obtained, they are afraid that really will be engraved in the experience, play, memory down.

However, I would like to remind you that the so-called "middle age" does not only refer to physical age, but also to "social age" = "the degree to which an individual recognizes his or her own age as determined by society". ". In other words, a70A man who is "old at heart" is still "middle-aged", while a young and disillusioned man is already "middle-aged". Therefore, among the men I know who visit prostitutes "for the sake of future memories," there is one whose physical age is19Age.

Moreover, in the sex industry, the age of the clients is often determined by the girls. The low degree of professionalization of the lady, often unconsciously apply social stereotypes to evaluate the "middle-aged" johns, say some "do not get tired", "heartache you" and other nonsense, make johns The johns would just brush their sleeves and leave. On the contrary, highly professional ladies are very good at "flattering", full of "you're great", "it's really big" and other praises. As a result, the number of middle-aged johns who don't fall for such childish tricks is really small. This is because in the "future memories" of these johns, there is not only sex, but also youth. Even if they will one day realize that this is just a virtual added value given by a skilled lady, they will still gain one more thing - after all, they were once very well cared for.

Incidentally, shouldn't the wives of middle-aged johns learn to avoid being defeated by "professional ladies"?

8The herd mentality

There are some men who often go to various kinds of entertainment or pornographic places in groups. Some of these men do not go there specifically for the purpose of prostitution, but mainly for the purpose of entertaining others or "helping out" or even "accompanying the bondage". However, if the strongest person in the group deliberately seeks prostitutes, or even specifically arranges for prostitutes, then other men have no choice but to go along with it.

There is often a "herd effect" here: if everyone else iscallMiss, if you are the only one who is "out of the mud", you will offend everyone else. In particular, if these "others" are unfortunately your supervisors or bosses or friends, then it will be even more difficult for you to behave. This is in fact the same mechanism as the so-called "juvenile delinquent gangs", and the same reasoning as "if all officials are not corrupt, it is difficult for one to be corrupt; if all officials are corrupt, it is difficult for one not to be corrupt".

In addition, in any kind of hierarchical interpersonal relations, "herd-style" prostitution is often a great opportunity to show loyalty to the boss, or have to "give up their lives to accompany the gentleman" of the "dead set". Because you follow the boss whoring, or even obey the order to go whoring, is the same as their pigtails dedicated to the boss, where still dare to report the heart? The boss will often think that you are sincere "close to" him. This is also ancient. In ancient Chinese novels often depicted this way: cheating men and women were other women found, so the cheating woman will encourage the man to that other women also "killed", to prevent leaks. Now, it's just that the roles have been reversed, and it's the boss who tells the lady to "kill" the subordinate.

Of course, I advise readers not to over-value this "herd" prostitution mentality as well. Because: First, this is not prostitution, but a political behavior; Second, the subordinate if there is no prostitution "gene", or not found by the supervisor, think that the supervisor will not make these "beauty plan". Moreover, unless it is a group sex, otherwise the supervisor can not monitor the lady to rape the subordinate.

Also, anyone who thinks that "crowd-sourcing" prostitutes can be used as an excuse after the fact is a little too young. Women won't believe it (including the lady). Other men will advise you to "be a good man, be a good man". As for the many "security personnel" well, as long as the fine, will not ask you why; if you have to say, beware of "resistance to strict".