Author：insightpumpkin Source：Baidu

If the mountain doesn't come over, I'll come over.

Dr. Wu Jun once said in a speech that the road up is destined to be difficult, while the door down is always open.

One's efforts to move up the ladder are like climbing a pyramid.

Upward, the steps are difficult; downward, the abyss.

Once you make up your mind to break upward, there are many downward forces that pull and tug at you.

These tangible and intangible forces that pull you downward, I call them"Bottom Traction."The

01

Family of origin gravity

There is a popular question on Knowledge: Poverty, why is it hereditary?

There are two true stories in the comments section.

respondent@CaoDianThe father of the 16-year-old joined the army, out of the rural areas of northern Jiangsu Province, participated in the counterattack in self-defense against Vietnam, and reached the rank of deputy battalion at a young age. But when the future looked bright, he was transferred home.

The reason was that his grandmother said there was no one to farm the family land, so his father listened to his grandmother and went home to farm.

Another anonymous user said he was so poor as a child that he couldn't afford tuition, and was mistakenly transferred to the computer science department in college.

When he graduated, he passed Tencent's online application, but voluntarily gave up during the interview. Because he couldn't afford a bus ticket, his family told him to choose a state-owned enterprise in the county with a monthly salary of 3,000.

Years later, when he interviewed with his classmates, has long been financially free, he is still in the county's state-owned enterprises counting the paycheck, counting the mortgage.

Once you have the opportunity to cross classes, the first thing that holds you back is not the next person, but the family of origin.

You want to go to the big city to break through, relatives and friends advise you: girls do not want to think about things, quickly find someone to marry.

You want to change a more promising job, your parents do not support: how rare is a stable job nowadays, don't fool around.

You want to start a business to do business, the family is the first to oppose: entrepreneurial risk is too high, do not take risks.

It's not that the people around you can't see you as a good person, it's that the perception is limited.

The Atlantic Monthly once published an article describing such an image.

You're standing on a socio-economic ladder with a rubber band tied around your ankle and the other end of the leather band tied to the rung your parents are standing on.

If your parents are standing at the top end of the ladder, the rubber band will pull you back up as you fall down;

If they stand on the lower end, it will yank you down when you start to climb up.

So, if you come from an average background, you need to realize before it's too late that any advice your family of origin gives you will essentially pull you up to a slightly higher position in the same class as them.

If you don't make an effort to break out of this shackle, then your life is likely to be version 2.0 of theirs.

02

Nipple Music Gravity

Writer Misty Mansion believes there are five levels of reading:

Tier 1: Purely entertaining fiction, read what you like to read.

Tier 2: Traditional classic novels and reading books that work for you.

Tier 3: Enter the realm of history and philosophy and read valuable books.

Level 4: Enter the realm of ideas and read books that stretch.

Level 5: is to form your own system of thought and construct a new reading list based on your self-system.

Simply put, the depth of a person's reading is the measure of his thinking, and people at high levels are often deep readers.

Read a thought-provoking cartoon.

With the rapid development of the Internet, people can easily access all kinds of information by clicking the mouse and moving their fingers.

Dancing finger dancers are overwhelmed by handsome men and women, showbiz celebrity gossip comes in waves, thrilling online games keep people on their toes, and quick-fix paid learning relieves knowledge anxiety.

Your phone knows best what you like; the algorithm pushes you whatever you prefer.

Thus, one becomes an Internet pet, living in one's own information cocoon.

Thinking power has become the scarce commodity of the age, and inattention has become the disease of the age.

Have you ever noticed: the time you have to focus on your thoughts is getting shorter and shorter, and the things you can give your full attention to are getting fewer and fewer.

It's hard for you to read a book in its entirety, watch a documentary at original speed, and organize a manuscript independently.

Long-term immersion in the "short and quick" low-density fragmented information, lost thinking, the possibility of progress is lost.

By indulging in this lowly "titty fun" and losing the spirit of enterprise, we will be shackled to the bottom forever.

There is a saying that I believe in very strongly: You are what you read.

The direct translation is: what you read is what you become.

A better translation would be: the kind of information a person gets often determines the kind of person he becomes.

Don't let your time and attention be hijacked by the internet and get into the good habit of deep reading.

It's so we don't end up as puppets of information, recycling bins for fast food information.

03

Bottom Circle Gravity

When The Economist did a survey, it found a very counterintuitive phenomenon:

The working hours of the middle class and the poor have seen a significant decline in the last 30 years;

The working hours of the rich and the elite, on the other hand, have seen a dramatic increase in the last 30 years.

Billionaires with 50% or more work more than 65 hours a week.

Why?

Rich believes that the essence of work is to create value for yourself, so you insist on upgrading your skills on the job.

The poor believe that the essence of work is to provide value to the boss, so "fishing" has become the most powerful weapon against capital.

As a result, it became politically correct to go to work to catch fish, and those who worked hard were labeled as "struggling pussy" and were isolated and ridiculed.

Ziwab, chairman of Carnegie Steel, was 18 years old when he worked for a construction company run by Carnegie.

Workers complained that the work was tiring, the pay was low, and the work was dealt with perfunctorily.

Ziwab, however, was enthusiastic and determined to be a good employee, working hard at work and teaching himself about architecture after work.

Workers are not used to see him as such an anomaly, they have sarcastic ridicule him, he does not care, the enthusiasm remains.

Eight years later, he was promoted to chief engineer, and at the age of 25, he became the general manager of this company.

And the workers who taunted him in the beginning have either been laid off or are still stuck in their old positions.

At work, there are always people who are perfunctory, touchy-feely, and who manage to turn you into one of them.

I advise you to always stay away from such people.

Economics professor Jack Hsueh said something like this:People, forever working on their resumes.

You muck around at work, and sooner or later the job will weed you out.

04

The gravitational pull of weak values

There's a quote from the Vlogger "Science Futurist":

I don't know if I should tell you how I feel, but the drastic social stratification is becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy.

It's that so many people around us are desperately learning and working hard, and so they are accumulating material wealth and social status, all at a rapid rate that is visible to the naked eye.

But there is also a part of the people, always complaining about the solidification of the class, no future, think that everything is someone else want to cut my leek, the "weapons of the weak" toolbox to open, all used in the complaint, hate, lying down, on the rotten, so their lives really become very bad.

You must have people like that around you:

Seeing the second generation of rich people show off their wealth, complaining about the unfairness of their origins; disillusionment and despair, complaining about the solidification of class; see than their own seniority than the promotion of colleagues, speculation for some kind of subterfuge.

Dumping one's failures, the less-than-ideal, on society and others is certainly comforting.

But the price of the brief mental horseplay is the loss of the possibility of self-help by wallowing in self-pity and self-suppression.

One psychologist divided human values into two categories: one calledVulnerable valuesThe category is calledStrong values.

Vulnerable values ask: Why? Prefer to attribute things externally.

Strong values but used to asking themselves: why? Good at looking inward for causes.

Just like Yu Minhong, who came from a peasant background, in high school, his teacher said to the class:

None of you here will go to college, and all of you will surely be peasants in the future.

Many students bought into it and either dropped out or gave up without taking the test.

Yu not resigned to fate, the test once failed to take the test twice, two failed to take the test three times.

Finally he got into Peking University, a rural boy who became an entrepreneur.

It is said in the Qur'an: If the mountains do not come, I will come.

Life is not equal, disparity of birth, disparity of talent, disparity of resources ......

Complaining is pointless, action is what turns things around.

When you replace "why" complaints with "why" self-help, it means you've taken a big step up.

05

Dopamine gravity

There is a famous experiment in biology called "The Mouse is Crazy".

A mouse is hooked up to an electrode that stimulates its brain with tiny electrical currents whenever it presses a button.

But not only did the rat not duck when it was electrocuted, it became more and more excited.

12个小时疯狂按了7000次按钮，最后力竭而死。

原来，电极刺激了大脑区域的快感中枢，会产生让人兴奋的多巴胺，于是老鼠掉入了这个“快感陷阱”里。

别嘲笑老鼠，其实我们高明不了多少。

知道垃圾食品有害健康，却忍不住大快朵颐；

深知短视频让人上瘾，却忍不住打开刷个不停。

一根网线，一个外卖电话，一屏永远看不完的短视频，可以让你在短时间享受到快乐。

但所有能立马满足你的娱乐方式，最终都会在不知不觉中彻底毁了你。

无节制的爽感之后，往往是无尽的空虚。

哈佛商学院做过一个调查，结果发现了一个反差极大的现象：

越是富人越是精英阶层，越喜欢采用补充型的娱乐方式：比如健身、阅读、学习。

而越是穷人越是底层的人，越喜欢采用消耗型的娱乐方式：比如打牌、打游戏、看肥皂剧。

永远不要让自己成为那只疯狂的老鼠。

低级的快乐靠放纵，顶级的快乐靠自律。

读书很枯燥，但一页一页啃，才能内化为知识和智慧；

健身很痛苦，但汗一滴一滴流，才能塑造更强健的身体；

多巴胺只能带来片刻的欢愉，苦熬过后内啡肽带来的快乐，才有持续一生的回甘。

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《奇葩说》里辩手肖骁有一句辩词我特别喜欢：

往往最诱惑的选择，不是上帝给你的机会，而是恶魔给你的考题。

在向上攀缘的路上，我们会遇到无数这样的选择题：

勇敢还是稳定？舒适还是痛苦？安逸还是改变？

我只有一个建议：在人生的十字路口，永远选择困难模式。

因为好走的路，都是下坡路。

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